I hate to say this, but I’m afraid sometimes my gender is insane.
During my 7 day trip, I did not meet a single friendly female. NONE. I met many nice men, but not a single nice woman. The girls I did meet-all fell into distinct and unfortunate categories.
I met the insecure, mean girls. The girls who spent 5 minutes at the bar with us smiling and then walked away to talk about my friend and I to other people- other insecure, mean girls. They only stopped talking about us when I walked over to them and was greeted with a dirty looks. Which was nice, I love a big bowl of awkward silence on day one of my holiday. I didn’t realize my plane flew me back to middle school girl drama.
I met the girl who refused to talk to anyone but her friends. The girl I waited at the airport with, who I saw on the plane, who stood in front of me at check-in. The girl I saw everyday, who couldn’t even crack a smile in return to the one I gave her. Who acted as though everyone but her friends were invisible, most likely because no one else put on eyeliner to sit on the beach.
I met the overly sexual to the point it’s embarrassing, girls. The girls who threw themselves at men who did not want them, who went all Fatal Attraction stalker style on guys, to the point it was shameful sad to watch. Who took pictures of guys who didn’t want their photo taken, who called guys who didn’t want to be called, who shared cabs with guys who wanted to ride alone. Girls who didn’t mind knowing they were a guys second, third and in one case- fourth choice for the evening when everyone else turned him down.
I met the girls who put everyone down to push themselves up. Who were rude and inconsiderate and so condescending you could almost see it oozing out their pores. Who could take any piece of information and turn it into a topic they (of course) knew more about.
I met the girls who were so uncomfortable in their own skin it left me exhausted. Girls who were constantly pushing down their swim top, or pulling on the towel. Girls who refused to lift their arms because they didn’t like the job the waxer did, girls who said “please don’t look at me”, in a panicked voice when they showed up in their bathing suit. Who missed out on doing things they wanted to do because they were scared they would get laughed at. These are the same girls who were quick to judge anyone else for what they were or were not wearing.
I met the needy girls. The girls who started calling our hotel room at 8:30am to ask what we were doing for breakfast and (by day 7) when we refused to answer, kept calling. As in, 5 calls before 11am. And when the calls went unanswered, they showed up at the door and started knocking. And then tried the door. And then chased us through the lobby to ask us where we were going.
See? I told you. Crazy.
The part that gets me is that I met a lot of nice guys. Young, old, single, not single- guys who spoke English, French or Spanish. Guys who talked about teaching and politics and jellyfish. Who held their own in conversation, who were interesting- who talked about ideas and ideals, not other people. Guys who said ‘hi!’ when they ran into you in the lobby, who wanted to get their picture with you. Men I never worried would begin talking about me poorly the second I left my chair.
Maybe it was just a bad mix of girls, but the whole experience left me a little disappointed. Women are often thought of as the more sensitive, thoughtful gender but this trip left me believing whoever believes that is sadly mistaken. Because by the last day, I would have rather taken my chances starting a conversation with a table of knife holding men in wrestling masks than face a table of girls I spent the last seven days with.
So I ask you readers, when did women get so crazy?
I read this on the heels of my post about how I’m a pile of insecure goo.
I think I got crazy at around age 13 or so.
Although I admit, I don’t think I fit into any of the categories you listed above. Thank goodness! :)
stories like this are what make me appreciate my close girlfriends all that much more. i cant stand these type of girls you encountered. dudes just seem to have it figured out. at least most of them.
I love my girl friends, don’t get me wrong, but I prefer the company of guys a lot of the time because they don’t tend to pull the stuff listed above. I’m guilty of it too from time to time but this sounds like it was totally out of control.
This is why I live with a guy now. Girls were too much drama…
When? Birth.
Women are bitchy and catty. I count myself lucky to have found three GOOD girlfriends in one lifetime.
I think it’s mostly young girls of a certain type. I certainly encounter them at my university, which is a pretty expensive private school (and you can tell who is paying full price…) but in my experience, once they grow up a bit, they get a little bit better. Or at least that’s what I tell myself…
Sigh. It is sad isn’t it? And it’s the reason I don’t have a lot of girlfriends anymore. Those relationships are just so hard to keep up. Guy friendships aren’t that high maintenance.
What the hell is up with mean girls? I’m super nice to strangers and even nicer if I’m at a bar drinking. I’m like everyone’s BFF
There are two universal truths which, when combined, explain all of humanity…
1) All men are pigs
2) All women are crazy
It’s like asking why the ocean is salty…it just is, that’s all!
Ew, you vacationed in middle school.
you are the insecure, mean girl. don’t perpetuate the stereotype. examine yourself first.
I hope it was just the time of year that you went on vacation — maybe all the mean girls have a break around that time or something — rather than the scary proposition that mean girls are multiplying faster than a jellyfish infestation.
@something.of.substance – you’re kidding, right? You meant this as a joke but it didn’t quite come across that way, right? Because you can’t have read any of brandy’s blog posts and read about her compassion, caring, and sensitivity and say something like that without it being a joke.
Women are often thought of as the more sensitive, thoughtful gender
By other women maybe. ;-)
Sometimes crazy can be cute, just not very often.
btw, good post :)
http://dorion55.blogspot.com
I feel like we grew up in a really weird period of time, you know? I think it resulted in a lot of insecurity and lack of real independence. I noticed the same thing recently when I went to a “goth” event with my boyfriend and his best friend. I realized that no matter what kind of group of people you end up around there are all the same dynamics and people that make you feel like an outsider. All the same old middle school/high school politics…
People wanting to make themselves feel better about themselves or something.
Wow, I am shocked to read that a member of the female gender can finally admit that woman are a little crazy!
A lot of drama surrounds female friendships…
I don’t get it either… it is a sad sad day when you have to wear eyeliner to the beach!
And all the rest too…
And look at what fun they are missing out on! Shame on them.
Honestly, I think there are as many nice women as bad ones, but the nice ones are much softer spoken and (as such) harder to find. Those girls are really missing out though, on life and all the good things that go along with being utterly willing to go to the beach sans makeup.
I can tell you from experience, my husband having both a daughter and a son, girls are most definitely the crazier of the two. While I love my girlfriends to death, they are my family – sometimes the drama that’s involved makes me want to live in a tee-pee.
Women are crazy when they sense competition from other women. It’s stupid and petty and really doesn’t make for a good public image. But, some women just can’t help themselves. Sad, to say the least.
@ Dingo: Nope, I absolutely didn’t mean it as a joke. Women dissing and dismissing women as a GENDER is the newest and trendiest form of misogeny. It’s sad that this day and age, women are so accepting of all the “nice” men they meet, but lump all women into one stereotypical category. It’s hard to display “compassion, caring, and sensitivity” one only some areas of your life. I do lectures at college campuses about the perpetuation of sexism and woman-hating by women. This post fits nicely into that grist mill.
Now, am I saying that there aren’t women out there who aren’t mean or needy or insecure or whatever? Of course not! But, to lump together all men as “nice” and all women as “flawed” probably has more to do with the writer than the reality. After all, it was as Anais Nin said: “We see things not as they are, but as we are.”
I’m a girl’s girl at heart, but I feel you on this. The mark of a good new bar, restaurant, neighborhood – to me – is whether or not the people are friendly, and by ‘people’ I mean ‘women’.
I don’t have a name for this phenomenon yet (Resort Brain, maybe?) but I’ve noticed the very same thing when I’m around girls traveling together. It’s like every insecurity is out there and they know it and so they’re managing it but not doing a good job of that AT ALL.
Some freak out, some obsess, some drink a lot, some eat a lot, some get really, really bitchy, and I have no idea why. I’m more myself when I travel than probably anywhere else, so it’s probably beyond my comprehension to understand how someone could go in the opposite direction.
i decided this when i reached a certain age and had experienced my fair share of it.
insecurities lead to jealousy which leads to all sorts of inappropriate behavior…most of it a little crazy!
I blame text messaging.
(I’ve been blaming text messaging for everything lately . . . just go with it!)
i totally agree with you, and im glad im not one of the categories.. i also feel more comfy around males than females.. i have to say that i can’t hang out with women for too long or they’ll drive me crazy, or well, we;’ll drive each other crazy..
Girls are insane. Seriously. Even some that start out seemingly normal, end up being crazy. I’ve gone through this as i’ve watch roommates come and go.
Ugh.
I have the same problem. I’m not sure what it is, but guys always like me and girls always hate me. LOL
I went to an all girls high school, and I was left with the impression that most girls are seriously mal-adjusted.
I think a lot of it comes from sources like Cosmo where the whole focus is that you have to talk to your guy in a specific way, be in bed with your guy a particular way, be a particular kind of girl friend or risk losing him. The stakes, if you buy into them, are extremely high and they make everyone else a potential Other Woman waiting to pounce.
I wish we could all have a little more self confidence!!
Wow this post has definitely hit home with a lot of people! That sucks that you had to put up with girls acting like that… but on the brightside you know how you never want to act/be perceived!
I had a response to Something of Substance, but it was getting to be on the long side, so I think I’m going post it to my blog.
Anways, welcome back!
We didn’t become crazy. We are crazy. Some of us just bottle it up better than others.
You know, I met so many terrible women in high school that I was petrified to go to a women’s college. I chose the school in spite of the fact that it was a women’s school, not because of it. I thought it was going to be terrible. But it turned out that, while there were a few bad eggs, for the most part the students at my school were a totally different type of woman. And now my faith in our gender has been restored.
Princess of the Universe- I don’t think you do either!
brookem- I’m with you on appreciating your friends all the more after being around girls who are so unfriendly.
e- Yep, it definitely was. Maybe vacation does this to girls?
Renee- Agreed!
Dory- I definitely can relate to what you are saying.
Amanda- I like to think they grow out of it too. I didn’t mean my post to imply that I think all women are awful and will stay awful forever, I definitely have great girlfriends but this trip was just… so out of control and SO one sided that it was impossible to not write something about it.
Lisa- I definitely don’t think guys are as high maintenance.
Maxie- Me too!!
AM- This made me giggle.
Susan- Pretty much
Dingo- I hope it was the time of year too.
Red Squirrel- Ha! You are probably right…
dorion55- Thanks!
Alexis- Good point and I definitely can agree with you on it!
Wooly- I definitely was surprised too! I was expecting more of a backlash!!
YSP- I think you are right. I think that for every crazy girl out there, there’s probably a nice one- one who keeps your secrets and brings you soup when you are sick, I just didn’t find them on this trip. And I definitely agree with you on them missing out, I can’t imagine being that… angry while on vacation.
Semichrmd-Ha! This made me laugh.
Nilsa- That’s what my brother said when I talked to him about this. He said the underlying component of a lot of girl crazy is jealousy because girls are far more competitive in many aspects, and will keep feeling it longer than a guy.
something of substance- If you go back and re-read what I wrote, I lumped the women I met on my vacation into several categories, (not one) all of which just happened to be unfortunate. I do not believe every woman on the planet is crazy, and I think people who read my blog regularly would agree with that. The last line of the post was sort of a joke, and I’m sorry you missed it. I’ve written a series of posts celebrating women in my life who made positive contributions and highlighted their accomplishments. I also could have gone in depth, and categorized all the men I met into the specific groups that made them nice men, but the post was getting long and that wasn’t my focus.If you feel that this singular post is an accurate description of the person I am, I’m sorry you’ve misjudged me, based on one post you read. But thanks for stopping by.
freckledk- Agreed!!
justrun- I like Resort Brain name. I think it fits perfectly. And I’m glad that I’m not the only one who has noticed this. Well, I mean, I’m sad that you’ve experienced such girls, but you know what I mean.
steph- And the “j” word strikes again. It would break my heart to think that the majority of the crazy I witnessed came down to jealousy. What a waste of time.
longredcape- I love that. I blame my phone company for almost everything but I like the idea of text messaging getting the blame too!
Moondai- Exactly. And I mean, of COURSE there are groups of girls you can hang out with and it’s wonderful, I’m just saying that in this case, there was NONE and there were many groups of males and it seemed so off balance it was disappointing.
Beth- Roommates are definitely an interesting way to experience the difference in gender. Although, I have to say my best roommate was a girl. A girl who also came with me to Mexico and got to witness crazy first hand.
LPB- My brother would call that the result of jealousy.
Kyla Bea- That’s such a good point. It makes me think of one instance on the trip- I was telling this guy I had just learned how to swim and how much I was enjoying the water. He told me to be careful for jellyfish, and then proceeded to lift up his shirt to show me where he got stung the day before. Two girls saw him do this and the one talked to me about it later asking why I was ‘all over that guy’ and making him lift up his shirt. There’s just so much… competition that even though I had no idea he was going to lift up his shirt, I was suddenly made to feel bad about it.
Erin- That’s definitely the brightside of things for sure!! And thanks for the welcome back!
Jenn- Can that go on a bumper sticker?? :)
Jess- That’s wonderful! I definitely know that after being back and spending time with my friends, I will be less disappointed but for now it’s a hard feeling to shake.
Ugh, I hate women. I really, really, really hate women. That is all.
You know its funny – the fiance just picked up on how mean girls are to each other when left alone. He is mystified by this and so we have had several conversations of late about how catty girls can be. It is this crazy phenomenon when left to our own devices. I have no idea if it is how we are socialized or what.
Girls are sooo competitive with each other its ridiculous! Its all a bunch of jealousy issues and insecurities and it drives me nuts. I’m guilty of being some of these sometimes but I know when I’m being crazy, which sadly some girls do not. I much prefer the company of guys to avoid these “drama” issues that always seem to arrise with a group of girls. I’m sorry you had to deal with such cattiness while on vacation!
I have to admit, it was easier living with guys than girls. Go figure. Girls are just ridiculous sometimes. It’s the jealousy and over thinking.
Have you ever read Female Chauvinist Pigs? It isn’t right on topic, but it is about how we women exploit ourselves, on top of the male exploitation we always complain about. It is weird how much things change when competition gets thrown in the mix.
So, about those overly sexual girls, who throw themselves at men, are they still there, do you think?
Fuck me, that something.of.substance sounds like a right laugh…
This is why my only true girlfriend is my sister…I always seem to meet these girls and no girls I’d want to get to know better.
Wait until you’re a mom and you have to go to Storytime and the playground with these people and their brats.
I have to put vodka in my travel mug just to survive it all without having to shank a bitch.
I dunno. I’m a guy, so I think it’s against some sort of cosmic law to understand how women think/work to begin with…
But, uh, those girls who “throw themselves at guys”? Yeah, please give ‘em my number. Sing it with me now: eight-six-seven-five-three-oh-ni-e-ine! ;)
i’d say that most of these character flaws stem from insecurity…
and how do girls develop insecurity? from other crazy girls who act out of their own insecurity.
it’s a vicious cycle.
Not sure when this happened, but it is precisely the reason I had almost all guy friends in college and always make friends with men before women when I start a new job. It’s sad.
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I’m answering this question on my blog.
http://ablogofherown.wordpress.com/2008/08/12/women-should-be-allies/
otherwise my comment would have been a billion pages long.
I am so glad some of your commenters are thinking about this more and writing posts of their own – it is such a good topic! Over at Mother Talkers the writers their often talk about The Mommy Wars – which is basically just the next level up in what you encountered. As crissipage said – wait until you deal with it in playgroups! So true. I still have moments – at the ripe old age of 43 – of abject insecurity in the social setting I live in as a mom and community volunteer. I feel left out when I find out people hung out together. How stupid is that? Where does that come from and why the fuck do I care?? Suddenly I am 13. Now, thankfully this happens less frequently as I get older, but still – even a couple of times a year to be struck like that is so crazy to me. So yeah, I am woman, and I own up to my moments of crazy.
Oh man, I am so glad that I don’t know any women like this anymore. You probably don’t either, in your normal life. It’s so nice being a grown up and getting to pick who we hang out with!
That said, I think that women just have so much more pressure on them than men do. Men are so much more free to be themselves, to pursue their interests, to be sexual-but-not-skanky, to look how they naturally look, etc. So of course it’s easier for them to be nice, friendly, interesting, and non-competitive. But some women, man. They’re so insecure and it’s like life is this massive competition and the only people who MATTER are attractive, wealthy men. It’s sad, yo, it’s sad.
Holy – lots of people with lots to say.
I think high school keeps getting played out over and over again. and some of us (me included) revert to our ‘comfort’ zone. I definitely put off an aloof side in uncomfortable situations. I don’t think that’s how I truly am – but it has become how I deal with these situations. I could see myself in many of the categories you listed – I know that would be how I’d behave in a new place. At least I recognize that in myself…now to go about changing it????
Wahoo!! 50 comments on this beast! You must have caused quite a stir!
@something.of.substance: I find your comment short-sighted. Wait, I should say, I found your first comment snippy, insulting and an example in keeping with the subject of the blog post, and your second comment hypocritical.
If we as women continue to deny that these behaviors (and let’s be honest, brandy touched on just a few of the rather bizarre behaviors exhibited by women in uncomfortable social situations) don’t really exist, are not inherent of the female gender and the roles society places upon us, then how exactly are we to go about doing something about them? While reading her blog post I could identify COMPLETELY with what she was describing, having experienced every scenario countless times. Are we all going to wait for the men to call us out on our manipulative and demeaning social behaviors? That’ll be a long wait. It works to their advantage to have us behaving like undersocialized and unempathetic idiots. I think it would be less “woman-hating” to call each other out on these behaviors than to pretend they don’t even exist.
seriously it sucks how lame some girls can be. you’d think they’d eventually grow up and get over it, but apparently not. at least you met some nice guys to counteract the stupidity of those women, eck.
i agree with jenn, in that, we (women) just are crazy.
but i think the invention of cell phones made us a tad crazier and more neurotic.
this was a very accurate, well-told tale of just how insane our gender is.
wow, seems to me something of substance really missed the point of this post. and they are talking about passing judgement?
Wow, things got entertaining!
Brandy, I just wanted to say that I didn’t see your post as an attack of women at all. Rather that you personally observed women that fit almost every stereotype there is, and you also personally interacted with several nice men on your trip (lucky!). It makes perfect sense that after you spent some time around these women, you start to wonder how much truthful those stereotypes might actually be.
Blindly defending someone’s actions just because that person is the same gender isn’t going to help anything, it’s just going to make things worse. There is nothing wrong with saying “Hey, I saw this and was disappointed by it.”
Wow women are bitches. Man we are mean.
Thanks for your feedback! I was a little worried that my post was taking the issue a bit too personally, but apparently I’m not the only one who felt the need to comment!
so very true – we women are crazy and sometimes downright MEAN – we are our own (and I mean as a gender) worst enemies and no one is more critical of women than women
while I tend to think of myself, and my friends, as essentially good and kind and NOT crazy, I would be lying if I said that the means and the crazies didn’t occasionally make an appearance
but the older I get (and I am OLD now :)) the less and less I care about the mean girls and the crazies
excellent post my friend
. . . sigh. . . such drama.
Who needs to go to Me-hee-ko to find mean, insulting women? You’ve got a good one right here.
I think those girls come out more in the summer time. Maybe they were just jealous you were getting all of the hott men with your witty, intelligent conversation that you didn’t need to let it all hang out ;)
Outside of my degree, it is impossible to find girls to talk about politics with.
If this post was a tweet, I’d favorite it. That’s how I talk now.
I really like your entry and you just inspire me to the lighter side of this issue to bridge the gap between the genders.
Females r complex creatures and they need individual manuals to understand by other females and males and children. Please include stick drawings and diagrams of how females really relate. That would be a good thing. What do you think of the idea?
It’s apparent from the comments that many of you with this opinion are quite young even if mid-twenties or so seems not-so-young right now. I’m sorry it’s not a happy time to be a girl but I have to tell you that this kind of angst and competition is very much the territory of young women. It ends.
Enjoy the girlfriends you have. Keep on the lookout for more of the nice ones, be open to and tolerant to the ones who seem to be temporarily insane and before you know it, pretty much everyone will have outgrown things like eyeliner on the beach and extreme permiscuity. Then (maybe once children start to come along, that seems to be a great equalizer) meeting and knowing lots of different women becomes a pleasure.
It’s not that women are crazy. It’s that it’s a confusing thing to be figuring out what kind of woman you are in a crazy, complicated world. The boys don’t have so much to figure out. They grow up. They keep their names. They figure out what they want to be. They mostly stay on their career paths no matter what they choose in their personal lives. If they choose to be permiscous few are looking askance at them. If they marry and have children their careers don’t have to stall even for pregnancy and maternity leave. Not so for girls.
The boys (young and old) are nice to you because they’re not competing with you. They’re either competing for you or they’re not all that interested but not they’re certainly not threatened by you like some of your female peers are.
Did you meet any older women? I bet they’d be nice. I can’t imagine not returning a smile or chatting with you if you began chatting with me. I can’t say I’d want to hang out though. Clubs aren’t my scene anymore. I’m really not all that fashionable. My life and my family probably aren’t terribly interesting to you on a night out and I certainly don’t want to revisit the drama of figuring out who I am.
Good luck with the crazy stage. It’ll pass before you know it and when you look back you’ll remember so much of the sweetness of being young and very little of the sour.
Yep, chicks be crazy.
I don’t like most girls for all the reasons you enumerated and I don’t have much to say in this comment except for “high five!” and “God, I’m glad we’re not like them.” :o)
I think we’ve all been a little piece of all these women at some point. It’s sad.
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So many good responses!
@ Erin- I have to say, I don’t think I can agree with the idea that the men I talked to where nice only because they were a) trying to hook up with me or b) not interested in me. I believe that a man can just be nice because he wants to be nice. And in seven days I went to clubs twice- the majority of my encounters did not occur in clubs or at bars, these are events that happened everyday- during lunch or waiting in line for breakfast. But I appreciate your support and hope that you are right about the crazy stage passing!
Hi my dear! It’s been awhile (I’ve been reading, but haven’t been able to comment much).
Anyway, first I want to say that I am so glad that you had a great vacation!!! I want to see pictures, yo!
Second, in regards to this post, I have to agree with you that our gender is, definitely, insane. While I’d love to agree with Erin and say that it does get better, I can’t fully do so. Because while yes, some women do grow up and get over the craziness, others do not. Trust me – I work with 40 & 50 year olds (I’m the youngest at 28) and they are all just as insecure and catty and annoying as some of the youngun’s you describe from your trip. It’s almost worse because one would expect better from the older ladies who should know better. Le Sigh. I am very glad to have found a group of girlfriends who don’t play this game.
Oh, and I have to agree with you in your response to Erin about the men. Being a sister to brothers (as are you), I fully believe that guys can be nice without having an agenda.
For what it’s worth, I TOTALLY would have bought a round of tequila shots and not been bitchy if I had gotten to go on your trip. I’m so jealous, I want to get back to the beach.
Wow, I want to know where you stayed so I can NEVER stay there. Such a shame. Hopefully you were still able to enjoy yourself?
Hmmm…apparently the number 8 and a parenthesis creates a dumb smiley face. Obviously, I meant to say “youngest at 28″.
Women got crazy when Oprah started giving away cars.
By the way, my comment wasn’t made in an attempt to get down your pants/shorts/swimsuit. I just say nice things because I’m a really nice guy. Humble too.
Hmm. I guess I could add this phenomena to the list of reasons I like relaxing, semi-asocial vacations. This type of silliness is not appealing at all!
try dating em???! AGH
very interesting blog. I’m gonna try to keep this short. Women are historically suspicious, competitive, and not too friendly with other women. It sucks. Thanks so much for the reminder that we as a gender, and pardon me for lumping us ALL together, need to smile and say “hi” to female strangers when wer’e on vacation, on line at the grocery store, wherever.
I’m terrible at doing that. Most of my neighbors are too. But I must say in an ongoing battle against terminal shyness I do try to at least smile and say hello to anybody in my vicinity. It’s resulted in some very interesting conversations.
I’ve noticed this a lot on vacations as well, and it’s quite frustrating!! This is exactly why I have more guy friends than girl friends. =)
yes, yes, yes – lately i’ve been meeting a lot of these types of girls and i never knew they existed off the big screen before. it’s shocking! i don’t get it! but am glad to hear it’s them that are crazy, and not us.
Interesting. Hate nagging, insecure, etc. girls – what a shame – run the world for the rest of us, the normal ones!
I’m in love with this post! I hate all of the above girls, especially the insecure and the needy. I get along with men so much better than girls because it’s rare that you find a drama-free, easygoing type of girl.
I have NO idea. I can’t stand those types. I grew up in a family full of women (7 of us) and we’re crazy direct and honest with each other because otherwise I think we’d choke one another. And there is absolutely no room for being snobby and if you dare get competitive or psycho, you’re slapped right back into reality. Those girls need to get slapped back into reality and into being mature WOMEN for the sake of females.