10 Top Lessons I Learned In 2009 (this list is seriously incomplete but a top “23.5 Lessons I learned in 2009″ just doesn’t have the same ring to it. And if there’s one thing I’m about, it’s the ring).
1. Crying in public, sending out 80,000 resumes and begging will not get you a job. Neither will good intentions, great connections and a resume so sparkling it would make Obama’s look shoddy in comparison. A good job will find you when you least expect it. And everyone who says “the perfect job will find you when you are ready”, aren’t actually annoying assholes who know nothing, but wise sages who should be worshiped for their mental clairvoyance.
2. Metal cannot go in the microwave. Metal cannot go in the microwave. Metal cannot go in the microwave. (I admit, this is a lesson I need to re-learn each year. Don’t look at me like that, I EARN this hair color).
3. It does not bother me as much if I fail. It will always bother me if I don’t try. I know, that sounds like it should be part of a Gatorade commercial, or a Hallmark card with that saucy minx Maya Angelou’s face plastered to the front- but it’s true. This year I learned that I’m always better off trying and failing than not trying. It’s just how I’m hardwired.
4. “Sorry” is not a magical word. It will not immediately ease all pain, fix all hurts, erase all that ails your heart. But? It’s a start. And anyone who is brave enough to say it, mean it- and repeat it when necessary is someone worth holding on to.
5. Vowing to boycott all magazines/websites that are Tiger Woods obsessed means that the only publication I will be reading for the next 42 years is Real Simple magazine. I’m surprisingly okay with this. (I’m pretty sure this is going to make me sound like a 64 year old housewife from Iowa, but I get a chill down my spine and a tingle up my leg when I see a new Real Simple on the shelf. Their “new uses for old items” feature almost gives me an orgasm every month. I said ALMOST. I’m not THAT easy).
6. Sometimes there is nothing to say. And in those moments, it’s best to say nothing. – This has been a really hard lesson for me to understand this year- I’m a chronic fast talker, oversharer- kinda gal. But learning that sometimes you get more from a conversation by saying nothing, feel better by not using the 894 social networking sites you are signed up on to discuss your latest mini- crisis- well, that’s been just lovely.
7. Sometimes bandwagons are worth joining. Sometimes joining them doesn’t make you a douche who falls into the slow learning category, it shows that you spot a good thing when you see it and are ready to embrace something before it’s so popular your mom likes it. Bandwagons I’m thankful I joined this year: watching Glee, getting a blackberry, belting cardigans, being employed and drinking gin with kool-aid (don’t ask, just do it).
8. The blog can humble me. When I started The Secret Project in January, I had no idea how many of you would respond. I thought a few responses would trickle in, but I was wrong. Hundreds of you have submitted your secrets- some heartbreaking, some profound, some laugh out loud funny (#4 on this one still cracks me up) and some that will stick with me always. So thank you. Some days it’s incredibly bizarre to check your email and have 30 anonymous new secrets in your inbox- but I’m always grateful for those of you brave enough to share.
9. It is possible to find a dude you will like more than George Clooney. That’s as swoony as I’m getting today. YOU ARE WELCOME.
10. I’m a happy girl. Yesterday I almost killed myself. It’s a long story, but it involves me thinking I put my car in park (but really leaving it in drive). Then getting out and walking around to the passenger door and opening it, falling on the ice and THEN realizing my car was still in drive and it started moving with half my body underneath it. My life flashed before my eyes and it was a dazzling array of long talks, good friends, swoony moments and Sour Patch kid binges. Oh, and Ryan Reynolds abs. (I will use ANY EXCUSE to link to that picture. It’s my way of helping the world). Anyway, I was saying… oh yeah, I almost died and my life that I saw flash before me was a good one. (None of this is true. Well, the part about almost killing myself is- but in that moment, all I felt was pure terror- there was no inner slideshow of happy moments- it just seemed like a good lie to tell to illustrate my point that I’m happy with my life.)
What were the big lessons you learned in ’09?
I’m a whore for Top Ten Lists. Last year I asked some of my favourite bloggers to submit their own Top Ten list that reflected the year. They wrote lists about the best/worst moments in sports, politics, fashion, gossip, movies, world events, bandwagons, color combinations, music and many others. If you have a top 10 (or even top 5!) list you’d like to submit- email me by December 31st. I’ll be posting all the lists in January. Thanks guys!