So first of all, if you break out into hives when someone whispers the word “Kardashian”, this post is not for you. But here, look at my cute puppy before you go:
You want to see how adorable Macy is in her harness she wears because her walking speed is Mach 5? Okay! One more:
Now that you feel that you’ve swallowed a rainbow of happiness, you may leave.
Kardashian time.
Let’s just get it out in the open- I like Kim Kardashian. I think she’s a smart business woman and is ridiculously talented at knowing how to market herself. Of course, she has an entire team helping her (like any other celebrity in Hollywood) but anyone who has clothing stores, jewelry lines, cosmetic products, and book deals to manage along with endorsing a slew of products and having every move recorded for her television show, (while accepting movie roles) has to know what’s going on.
So of course I was sad when I heard that her marriage was ending. I assumed that the natural reaction to humans hearing the news would be sadness, because let’s face it- divorce sucks. Divorcing after 72 days probably sucks more. Which made the comments I heard and read about the news pretty disheartening.
Co-workers laughed, rolled their eyes. Tweeters blamed Kim Kardashian from everything to ruining the dreams of little girls everywhere to ruining the sanctity of marriage. Facebook became a place where people stopped playing Gem Share or Diamond Minefield or whatever those games are called and spent an entire day suddenly caring about the marriage of someone they continually deemed too ridiculous to care about in the first place.
Dudes. Get a grip. First of all? Yes. I am aware that her wedding cost roughly a gazillion dollars. And yes, I’m aware that she got a metric shit ton of stuff for free. But here’s where we get real- if you were getting married and someone offered to provide you with the flowers/dress/invitations OF YOUR DREAMS, would you say no? Of course you wouldn’t. Or maybe you are one of those really selfless awesome people I will never be and you really would say no, but ask the person beside you. They will say yes. I will step forward and say, I WOULD ACCEPT FREE THINGS TOO. Word on the street is weddings are expensive.
And what’s wrong with saying yes? Anyone who is obsessed with E! network programming knows that the girl works her ass off. Even her haters have to give her credit, they complain about her ‘over exposure’, which is only really possible when YOU ARE WORKING TO PAY THE BILLS. So if she’s able to get free stuff? I say awesome. Just throw some free stuff my way next time.
(This is when you say “If I had the opportunity to get so much free stuff, I’d make sure to give back to the community or help others”. And this is where I say, “how do you know she doesn’t?”)
The idea that Kim Kardashian is in any way responsible for ruining the sanctity of marriage is silly to me. Did anyone hear about a woman named Elizabeth Taylor? That minx was married more often than I changed my socks, yet she’s not considered a poster child for ruining marriage like Kim. Elizabeth Taylor has just been deemed ‘a romantic’. No one blamed Dennis Rodman for destroying the meaning of marriage when he was married to Carmen Electra for NINE days. I didn’t hear people protesting Renee Zellweger/Kenny Chesney’s 4 month marriage. I suspect this relates to the fact that unlike the screen goddess Elizabeth Taylor or that talented Renee, many people just simply dislike Kim Kardashian. Which? Is completely fair. But to act like she’s the poison that has ruined the sanctity of marriage is as smart as marrying anyone in Hollywood without a prenup.
Another common comment that I’ve heard so frequently that if I hear it again my eyes might get stuck as they roll into the back of my head is the idea that she married for publicity/money/fame. Again, I’ll try to be respectful here- but that opinion is stupid. In case you missed the first rant paragraph, the chick already runs her own game. She has Birkin bags full of money. She’s already on a television show (more than one actually), has been cast in a new Tyler Perry movie and has various body parts plastered over a million different cosmetic products. Besides- is there anyone who really believes that someone would be willing to have their ENTIRE wedding broadcast to the world with over 4.3 million people watching it just to divorce a few months later and look like a fool?
Just think about that.
Remember when you first started dating that dude and you loved him and you swooned to all your friends about how great he was and then after you broke up you were mortified that you ever told anyone anything great about him because, HELLO? YOU WERE BROKEN UP NOW, OBVIOUSLY HE WASN’T THAT GREAT. Now take that mortification and multiply it by 4.3 million. Does that sound like something you (OR ANYONE?!) would sign up for?
I didn’t think so.
In the end, I suppose Kim Kardashian doesn’t need me in her corner. I mean, the chick has a pretty fierce family, a great brain and a strong work ethic but when I adore a person- I’m going to bat for them. Even if they have no idea who I am. And I guess my frustration doesn’t come from one of my favourite E! stars getting trashed on social media- it’s the idea that ANYONE getting a divorce should be trashed on social media.
Lesson learned: If all your tweets are nasty, bitter and full of illogical sentiments regarding one of the hardest working reality stars in Hollywood, I will be unfollowing. Ditto Macy.
First of all, HI MACY YOU ARE SO CUTE.
Secondly, thank you for this post. I was pretty appalled at the things I saw (and am still seeing) in reaction to her divorce. Especially the people who hate for “being famous for doing nothing”. Do these people not realize that if they really think she’s famous for nothing, that by being a part of that conversation would just be perpetuating that? (Did that sentence even make sense?)
I enjoy watching their show, and I’m totally with you that she is a hard working, shrewd business woman. So are her sisters. I think it’s sad that her marriage ended, and I think it took a lot of guts for her to openly admit that she thinks she got carried away and wrapped up in the idea of the fairy tale wedding and marriage.
No one ever knows what goes on in a marriage except the two people who are in that marriage. People need to back off and focus their attention on their own lives.
Not only did I think way too many people overreacted to the situation, but all of the reaction was so ironic. It happens often on social media. People spend so much time talking about something they dislike that the subject trends. You know what’s more powerful, not giving it any attention.
I can’t even imagine having a short and disastrous marriage broadcast to the entire world. How humiliating. My cousin recently got divorced after two years of marriage, a marriage that was basically doomed from the beginning, and felt ashamed. She can’t take communion in her church. This is serious stuff. It’s not flippant. It’s not shoe shopping or a red carpet.
That said, the fact that she chooses to operate her business in the public arena means she is open to this criticism. That doesn’t mean I think the criticism is acceptable or respectful, but it’s the reality of her life. And it reflects pretty poorly on our society as a whole.
I love Macy. I want Macy to fall in love with my bulldog, Stan.
Regarding Kim, I think she’s quite silly for getting married in the first place. It doesn’t matter that she is famous, I would feel the same way if one of my friends got married and divorced within 73 days. I’d also really, really hope that my bridesmaid dress was cute enough to wear again since I’m pretty sure wedding pictures of 72 day marriages disappear pretty quickly.
I like Kim just fine and I really like Kris. But I think they both should probably steer clear of hasty, life-altering decisions going forward.
Hi, Macy! You are too cute!
I have to say that Kim is my least favourite Kardashian, but I did find the reaction to the end of her marriage pretty shameful. I’m sure she feels bad enough without the world rubbing her nose in it. Do I still find a few of the jokes funny? Yes, I do actually. That does not change the fact that when any marriage ends it is a sad thing, even if the reason it’s sad is because maybe it shouldn’t have happened in the first place. I’m glad you wrote this post, it’s pretty spot on of how I felt about the things people said about it. I’m just glad that most of the people I know or work with don’t really care at all about that show or what’s happening with the Kardashians, or else I might have heard way more negativity than I’d care to.
For the record, I haven’t said anything about this divorce until right this moment.
The thing with the Kardashians, or any celebrity for that matter (I mean, the whole Jennifer-Brad-Angelina trifecta is STILL making headlines after so many years – and kids – have come to pass), is that anything that goes on in their lives is going to be used as “ammo”.
Let’s face it — someone like Kim sells gossip magazines and gets those gossip celebrity news shows ratings sky high. Sure, it’s sad when people’s private hardships are broadcasted, but this is the life that she wanted and you can’t argue that fact. And with this particular situation, she can’t expect to have her marriage and wedding in the limelight yet have those same people leave her alone with the divorce.
Personally, I couldn’t care less. I don’t think she’s ridiculous and I don’t think she’s spectacular. She’s just one of those people who have the business-sense and the luck (and the who-you-know element) to have been so successful in Hollywood. I wish her the best in life and I’m sure that soon enough, this will be yesterday’s news and she’ll happily move on with her life.
Look at Rihanna … that girl had her beat up mug all over the place after Chris Brown ripped into her. If she can pick herself up and move onward and upward, then so can Kim.
I think the reason people are exclaiming that she is “ruining the sanctity of marriage” has a lot to do with the struggle for marriage equality in the US. People against gay marriage claim that gay marriage will ruin the sanctity of marriage but for many proponents it makes absolutely no sense that straight people can get married and divorced so easily. They are using Kim Kardashian’s 72-day marriage to counterpoint that particular argument against gay marriage. You can use any of the celebrities you mentioned in this post to make the same point… it’s just that Kim Kardashian is the most recent in a long line of celebrities (and normal people) who kinda rush in and out of marriage. It’s their legal right to get married and divorced.
Personally, I think it sucks that there are people who don’t take that commitment as seriously as they could and give up too easily when the going get rough. But for every couple that doesn’t thoroughly examine whether or not they should get married (or divorced) there are just as many couples that take those things very seriously. And I have no idea where Kim and Kris lie on that spectrum… maybe they tried to make things work… who knows.
Basically, I think Kim’s situation is being used to pose the question: why aren’t people who are gay allowed to get married… to rush into things… to have the same legal benefits of marriage as straight people… and to get divorced, if they want to?
Hadn’t thought about it in this angle …
I agree with you. I think people getting up in arms about the sanctity of marriage (and I will count myself amongst them) are doing so because it is such a hot button issue right now. And like you said, Kim is just the most recent example.
That makes total sense to me. And if the comments I heard/read were voiced the way you voiced this, I’d agree. My issue came with the idea of her ruining the idea of marriage for anyone- and that’s where I got frustrated. And because I’m a Kimaholic today, I will say that she’s worked with Cyndi Lauper’s organization to help end discrimination to gay couples- including not allowing them to marry. I hope that common sense finally prevails and EVERYONE who wants to get married one day, can. For 72 hours or 72 years!
Honestly I don’t get into all the Kardashian hooplah, but the one thing that did irk me about her wedding was that they actually went and registered for gifts. I mean come on! If you are making a shit ton of money do you really need someone to buy you that $6,500 Tourbillon black vase? Ask that in lieu of gifts your guests donate to your favorite charity or something. They are already getting paid for their wedding, why do they need to register for gifts on top of that?!?! Ridiculous and makes her look extremely greedy. Then add that they divorce only 72 days later and I bet those people are pissed they bought them those gifts!
http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20502788,00.html
Hmm. I definitely get what you are saying. I’ve heard that the gifts will all be donated to people in need, so I suspect the gift givers won’t be too upset. And something tells me that if you are in a position to buy a $6,500 vase- you aren’t going to get too worked up about someone else getting it!
Good point as well. :) And glad to hear the gifts will be donated to people in need. Wouldn’t you just love to see the face of the one of those people in need who ends up w/ a $6,500 vase? Ha!
I totally agree. I think unless you have been her and been in her situation, you have absolutely no right to judge. I feel the same way about Demi and Ashton. The jokes are hurtful and I think it’s pretty sucky that people feel ok talking about stuff they don’t know the whole story of. I guess it’s even more hurtful to me about Demi because I can relate to her situation and all the people wondering why she just doesn’t leave him. It isn’t that easy. Feelings are complicated, etc. I feel bad for celebrities because the things that for me would just be one really bad decision that no one but me has to be mad at me or judge me about, their decisions turn into huge things that don’t seem to go away and everyone has an opinion on.
I find it kind of bewildering how people find it perfectly okay to make harsh and often horrible judgements about people in the public eye. Things are said that you would never ever say about a person you knew irl. Also, good on you, hey. A divorce is not a happy thing, and it irks me that the status quo response was not sadness, but outrageous judgement. Shouldn’t there be a moments pause to remember that they are people too? Good post, hey.
I agree with you. We don’t know what happened between the two of them and we probably never will. The part about it that bugs me is that every news source out there seems to think this is news. It isn’t! This is between Kim and Kris and that’s it. Just because they shared their joy, doesn’t mean they MUST share their sadness too.
I don’t watch her show and didn’t watch her wedding, so I may be totally clueless in my opinion, but here goes.
I’m planning a wedding. You’re right that people are crazy when they yell about people getting things for free. I’d love for someone to pay for it all. But, I also likely wouldn’t spend millions of dollars of someone else’s money on one day. I think there’s a fine line between professing your love to someone and having a really great party and going totally, completely, balls-to-the-wall overboard to the point that the actual love-professing becomes the secondary reason for the event. I think Kim falls into the latter category, but I also think most celebrities do. So why single her out?
As for the gay marriage thing, I’m with you on that. As much as I support the right of everyone to marry whomever they choose, I’m not really a fan of using her divorce to underscore the point. I can’t really vocalize WHY I don’t like it, but I don’t.
I do side-eye the whole thing a bit because she is a celebrity who does “seemingly do nothing”. Yes, she’s built up a clothing business, etc. etc., but wasn’t her first launch into a fame b/c of a sex tape? And then to have a reality show that basically follows her every move? Her claim to celebrity is not that she’s an actor or singer or has some other trade. It’s that she’s really good at getting attention. So, do I wonder if the whole thing was a stunt? Maybe. Do I vilify her for it? No. I move on and don’t really care one way or the other.
Love Macy! So cute!
I thank God every day that I do not have a television. I’ve never seen a Kardashian TV show.
My one thought on the whole short marriage thing is this… THIS is exactly why premarital counseling is advisable. I think Kim and Kris had different ideas about what their post-marriage life was going to be like and if they’d talked about it before the wedding, things probably would have been much different. Maybe not, though. Hopefully there’s a lesson learned in all of this.
I may have just banned her from my blog it doesn’t mean I couldn’t agree more with you on this post. Well said lady, well said.
also, the Macyness kills me with cuteness on a regular basis. please continue.
Macy is so cute!
And you’re right – the twitter reaction was pretty ridiculous. Sure, the end of the wedding was shocking and caused me to roll my eyes because for me, it was yet another Hollywood wedding that didn’t make it, but it’s not my place to pass judgement. The marriage didn’t work, the honeymoon period ended and it wasn’t right, and that’s totally okay. That happens, all the time. And Kim is the one who ruined the sanctity of marriage. I’m pretty sure the sanctity of marriage was ruined way before she got ahold of it.
oh Macy and you’re cute, adorable face – I would never get anything done if you were my pet because I’d be too busy staring at your face!
As for the kim/kris wedding, I gotta say their divorce announcement, or rather Kim’s, was not surprising to me but just more so annoying. I say that because of the few clips and pictures that I saw of them before the wedding and they just didn’t seem that into each other. major chemistry was lacking and that was evident to me just by papparazzi pictures since I don’t watch their show and I didn’t watch the wedding special.
So the fact that they decided to go ahead and plan a wedding that was then filmed, photographed and then the kardashasian sisters went on a media tour to promote said special, I felt like they were building themselves up for a major failure. I know she didn’t marry for publicity or for a check, that I never doubted. I just feel like they (they being the Kardashians) can get to be a bit too opportunistic, bad decisions get made too hastily (for instance, their failed credit/debit card venture, the unisex fragrance…and then this wedding) and then it all blows up because the media eats this kind of stuff up by the forkful.
Now with all of that being said, I did read Kris Jenner’s memoir this sunday (I love a good celebrity memoir! and it was available at my library) because I did want to broaden my opinion of them. Kris’ story was very interesting and I do look at the sisters a little differently now. Kourtney was and has been the only one I could stand but now I know a little more facets to their personality and they’re not that bad. However, Kris did point out that when Kim falls for a guy, she falls hard and fast without much consideration for the future or possible consequences (especially since she went through a divorce about ten years ago and I would think that a little bit of knowledge and maturity would’ve been gained from that experience). she also wrote that Kim was “not a quitter” which, I mean, was just too much irony for that week. Of course, I do feel bad for Kim because based on Kris’ words, Kim is very sensitive so all of this is probably crushing to her.
All of this is to say, that I don’t think this family or woman is the worse thing for american civilization and the state of matriomony, I just want them to take a little bit of a breather from all types of filming. I want them to rally together as a family without any cameras and get themselves together. They need some quiet time.
i feel that you rock.
I love you so much for this post!
Love this post! Well said and way to go to bat for a woman who, I agree, is totally smart, savvy, and hardworking. And, isn’t it a tad unfair that Kim is being totally bashed and berated for this whole thing, while the guy scampers off to Minnesota or wherever he’s from and escapes the spotlight? Last time I checked, marriage takes two, so why isn’t he taking any heat for rushing into things? Double standard or what?
YES. I think Kim is amazing and all the negativity surrounding her marriage is ridiculous. And I’m truly baffled that Kim is getting slammed but Kris, not so much! The hell?
Also, Macy is too cute for words.
Most are hard working, highly educated, ambitious people who just want to pay their dues, raise their families and live a decent life.
Someone always help to make very seriously articles or blog posts I might state. Right here is the first-time We been to your website website and therefore much? My spouse and i astonished using the study you’ve made to build this actual create incredible. Fantastic pastime!