Ever wonder how we fall in love?

I’m a reader. I read daily, usually after a hot shower when I’m curled up and bed and should be sleeping. As a kid, this was my favourite way to read- gulping in words late at night when my parents had told me to go to bed. The quiet and the darkness allow me to concentrate and dive into books in a way I just can’t do during the day. I love books that engulf me, that have lines so poignant they echo in my insides throughout the day. One of my current favourite reads is “Big Questions from Little People and Simple Answers from Great Minds” – a compilation of seemingly easy questions that kids ask everyday answered thoughtfully and as simply as possible by genius icons. 

My absolute favourite answer is (the question that I ask myself almost daily)- How do we fall in love?. Author Jeanette Winterson gives a response that left me sighing with happiness and eager to share:

You don’t fall in love like you fall in a hole. You fall like falling through space. It’s like you jump off your own private planet to visit someone else’s planet. And when you get there it all looks different: the flowers, the animals, the colours people wear. It is a big surprise falling in love because you thought you had everything just right on your own planet, and that was true, in a way, but then somebody signalled to you across space and the only way you could visit was to take a giant jump. Away you go, falling into someone else’s orbit and after a while you might decide to pull your two planets together and call it home. And you can bring your dog. Or your cat. Your goldfish, hamster, collection of stones, all your odd socks. (The ones you lost, including the holes, are on the new planet you found.)

And you can bring your friends to visit. And read your favourite stories to each other. And the falling was really the big jump that you had to make to be with someone you don’t want to be without. That’s it.

PS You have to be brave.

Love. Times infinity.

In two weeks I will be on winter break and eager for more good reads. Does anyone have any good recommendations?

11 comments to Ever wonder how we fall in love?

  • I LOVE that. Especially the part about the socks.

    I’m currently devouring Erica Jong’s “Seducing the Demon” (thanks to Nicole), and I can tell you right now that the next book I read will be her first novel, “Fear of Flying.”

  • CW

    I love finding other people who defied their parents to stay up reading! I actually caused the acid to leak out of the batteries in a flashlight because I was afraid to ask for new ones…

    If you don’t mind some serious gore, I recommend Battle Royale. Middlesex is also very good (and not gory) if you haven’t read it.

  • kaitlin

    I love this. Thank you. Especially the “be brave” part.

    One of my favorite books is The Grapes of Wrath by John Steinbeck or Blue Highways by William Least Heat-Moon. Both I recommend if you’re in the mood for some good American literature.

    (p.s. I’ve been reading your blog for years, and I always enjoy your posts — not sure I ever commented though.)

  • I think my favourite part of that answer might be: “And read your favourite stories to each other.”

    I’m definitely adding this book to my list of books to read!

    One of the best books I’ve read recently was State of Wonder by Ann Patchett. And I’m reading the Millenium trilogy by Stieg Larsson right now.

  • kate.d.

    I second State of Wonder, and her older one Bel Canto is great too. Also, if you haven’t read them yet: both recent Hilary Mantel novels (Wolf Hall, Bring up the Bodies), Gold by Chris Cleave, Live by Night by Dennis Lehane (and his earlier novel The Given Day), Tigers in Red Weather by Liza Klaussman, all the Tana French, all the Gillian Flynn. Happy reading!

  • Totally different angle on reading, but if you haven’t read Gregor the Overlander by Suzanne Collins (yes, that Suzanne Collins), you definitely need to!

    It’s fun and adventurous and I am willing to bet that you have some students you would recommend it to.

  • Amy

    Right now I’m reading The House I Loved by Tatiana de Rosnay and it’s just meh. I liked Sarah’s Key, but this one’s just kind of grinding. The last book I read was The Casual Vacancy, which was all kinds of awesome.

  • You have to be the bravest you’ve ever been, really.

    I really enjoyed reading “Just Kids” by Patti Smith on my honeymoon. “Sister of My Heart” by Chitra Divakaruni is one of my favorites as is Barbara Kingsolver’s “Prodigal Summer”. “Middlesex” by Jeffery Eugenides is another I recommend a lot to people.

  • “The Crimson Petal and the White” is a good winter break read… “Still Alice” is good but depressing… “The Red Tent” and “The 19th Wife” read like nonfiction to me but aren’t.. and if you feel like feeling all the feelings, you really can’t go wrong with Jodi Picoult.

  • I second The Crimson Petal and the White, I loved that book.
    I’m so glad you’re back.
    And yes. Brave. You are, you know.

  • That’s lovely. We really do have to be so damned brave. Cowardice just destroys love like nothing else.

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